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Brandan and Mary Fighting Explained: 90 Day Fiance The Other Way Couple Grow Increasingly … on October 12, 2023 at 8:41 pm The Hollywood Gossip

From the start of 90 Day Fiance: The Other Way Season 5, fans observed that Brandan and Mary were a toxic couple.
It started with the constant two-way surveillance, the obsessive control, and the emotional blackmail.
Fans hoped that things would improve when they got together in person. But instead, it all quickly went downhill.
Yes, Mary became pregnant, and Brandan proposed. But those aren’t signs of happiness. Those may be two of their biggest issues.
Mary Rosa and Brandan De Nuccio have a lot in common, but it takes more than that for a relationship to work out. (Image Credit: TLC)
For the longest time, Brandan and Mary’s fights were about possessiveness, unhinged jealousy, and “overthinking.”
Brandan and Mary are together now in Candoni, in the Philippines … but the fights haven’t stopped.
Instead, their constant conflicts have changed. And it has Mary’s family, who witness a lot of it, worried about their future.
Our first introduction to Brandan and Mary was watching as Mary watched him use the bathroom. (Image Credit: TLC)
To the horror of viewers, Brandan and Mary’s once-cute affection (she literally didn’t know how to kiss when they first met) has devolved into something miserable.
They went from gushing over each other to learning to navigate awkward realities to … just quarreling over every little thing.
On Episode 14, Mary shared that she shared her pregnancy news with her grandmother. That sparked a concern — that Brandan and Mary’s constant fighting might impact her pregnancy, or the baby. (Hormones like cortisol can absolutely impact fetal growth; that is not an old wives’ tale)
Brandan and Mary exchanged a heartwarming and emotional embrace when they finally met in person. (Image Credit: TLC)
For years, Brandan worked hard — to help out his godmother who took him in, and to send money to Mary to build “their” house. But something changed.
Mary complained about how Brandan was sleeping in and playing games on his phone. Those are very age-appropriate behaviors for a 23-year-old … but not encouraging for a partner and a father-to-be.
Their fights increased as Brandan apparently didn’t help out Mary like she wanted. And it became embarrassing; even the neighbors could overhear their bickering.
Upon arriving in the Philippines, Brandan learned about the medieval farming techniques that he would need to help with. (Image Credit: TLC)
Mary definitely noticed that they were only fighting harder after they became engaged.
Brandan took to yelling at her. And that wasn’t the only volume issue, as he’d turn up the volume on a video when she asked him to turn it down. Childish, contrarian s–t that you just don’t do to someone you love.
Speaking of which, Brandan escalated to verbal abuse, spouting things like “f–k you, Mary.” Awful.
Brandan’s first time leaving the US was when he moved to the Philippines. That’s a choice. (Image Credit: TLC)
Sometimes, people who love each other do disagree. But even if their conflict had been healthy (it was not), the aftermath was also bad.
Brandan would simply storm out of the house and sleep on a stone bench in town. Deeply weird.
We all heard him insist that he was doing his best, but … clearly, he wasn’t. They were making each other, and themselves, miserable.
Brandan had some trouble adapting to his new life under Mary’s grandparents’ rules. (Image Credit: TLC)
Mary kept holding out hope that Brandan would change. But they kept on with the relationship.
Eventually, Mary became pregnant, and she told him as much.
That didn’t fix Brandan’s attitude. If anything, it may have simply cemented his feeling of being trapped in the life that he chose. Because it’s no longer just about him and Mary.
Getting a ride in Mary’s part of the Philippines was a little different than it was for Brandan back home. (Image Credit: TLC)
Brandan is only 23 years old. He did not seem eager at all to leap into fatherhood. They are both way too young to be parents.
(Let’s be clear, this is not all on Mary. Brandan could have, but clearly chose not to, vastly reduced the odds of pregnancy)
Meanwhile, Brandan feels doubly powerless because not only is he “stuck” in the Philippines, but he can only work if he marries Mary.
Brandan made an interesting impression upon viewers. (Image Credit: TLC)
So there are financial pressures. There’s the looming pressure of impending fatherhood. And there’s the fundamental weirdness of dealing with Mary’s family dynamic.
Then there are other stressors. He’s adjusting to living in a new country. It’s very different, and he doesn’t speak the language.
He seemed to start to “check out” after Mary’s pregnancy news. It could be misery and crushing reality hitting home … but it’s also unfair to Mary.
Brandan enjoyed one last fishing trip before moving to the Philippines. (Image Credit: TLC)
Right now, Brandan depends upon Mary for almost everything.
It’s not just translating, it’s the house. He paied for it, but it’s Mary’s. She and her family could kick him out.
And while he could, in theory, just return to the US, he’d be leaving behind a baby. Plus, Brandan and Mary do really love each other. Even when they don’t act like it.
Mary and Brandan discuss their awkward first night together. (Image Credit: TLC)
All told, Brandan’s behavior spells out that he’s increasingly unhappy with this new life … and wants to go home.
It seems way too late. And, of course, we know that he and Mary married.
Perhaps they could come to the US on a marital visa. But they’d have to work out their issues, raise a lot of money, and wait a few years, first. Can their relationship last that long? Should it?
Brandan and Mary Fighting Explained: 90 Day Fiance The Other Way Couple Grow Increasingly … was originally published on The Hollywood Gossip.
From the start of 90 Day Fiance: The Other Way Season 5, fans observed that Brandan and Mary were a …
Brandan and Mary Fighting Explained: 90 Day Fiance The Other Way Couple Grow Increasingly … was originally published on The Hollywood Gossip.
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This scene almost broke him. And changed his career.

As Sinners surges into the cultural conversation, it’s impossible to ignore the force of Christian Robinson’s performance. His “let me in” door scene has become one of the film’s defining moments—raw, desperate, and unforgettable. But the power of that scene makes the most sense when you understand the journey that brought him there.
From church play to breakout roles
Christian’s path didn’t begin on a Hollywood set. It started in a Brooklyn church, when a woman named Miss Val kept asking him to be in a play.
“I told her no countless times,” he remembers. “Every time she saw me, she asked me and she wouldn’t stop asking me.”
He finally said yes—and everything changed.
“I did it once and I fell in love,” he says. That one performance pushed him into deep research on the craft, a move to Atlanta, and years of unglamorous work: training, auditioning, stacking small wins until he booked his first roles and then Netflix’s Burning Sands, where many met him as Big Country.
By the time Sinners came along, he wasn’t a newcomer hoping to get lucky. He was an actor who had quietly built the muscles to carry something bigger.
The door scene: life or death
On The Roselyn Omaka Show, Christian shared the directing note Ryan Coogler gave him before filming the door scene:
“He explained to me, ‘I need you to bang on this door as if your life depended on it. Like it’s a matter of life and death.’”
Christian didn’t just turn up the volume; he reached deeper.
“This film speaks a lot about our ancestors,” he told Roselyn Omaka. “So I tried to give a glimpse of what our ancestors would’ve experienced if someone or something that could bring ultimate destruction was after them. How hard would they bang? How loud would they scream to try to get into a place safely? That’s what I intended to convey in that moment.”
That inner picture—life or death, ancestors, ultimate destruction—is why the scene hits like more than a plot beat. It feels like generational memory breaking through a single frame.
Living through a “history” moment in real time
When Roselyn asks what he’s processing as Sinners takes off, Christian admits he’s still inside the wave.
“I’ve never experienced a project with this level of reception and energy and momentum,” he says. “People having their theories and breaking it down and doing reenactments… it’s never been a time like this in my career.”
He’s careful not to over‑define something that’s still unfolding: “There’s no way to give an accurate description of what I’m experiencing while I’m still experiencing it.” He knows he’ll need distance to name it fully.
But he can name one thing: “If I could gather any adjective to describe it, it would be gratefulness. I’m grateful.”
He also feels the weight of what this film might mean long-term:
“To know that I was there for a large amount of the time it was being brought to life, and a part of what the internet is saying will be history… this is something that I’m inspired by—to shoot for the stars in whatever passion rooted in creativity that you possess.”
Music, joy, and the man behind the moment
Christian talks about the music of Sinners as another force that shaped him. The score wasn’t playing nonstop; it showed up in key moments.
“The music was played when it was necessary to be played. But when it was played, it resonated,” he says. Hearing Miles Caton’s songs early, before the world did, he remembers thinking, “This is going to be magical… This is one of the ones right here.”
For all the heaviness of the story, he also brought levity. He laughs about being the jokester on set—singing Juvenile and Lil Wayne in the New Orleans hair and makeup trailer, trying to make everyone smile during Essence Fest weekend. “I’m a fun guy,” he says. “I love to see people laugh and have a good time.”
PATHS for us and opening doors
What might be most revealing is how seriously Christian takes his responsibility off screen. In 2015, sitting in his apartment outside Atlanta, he felt God tell him to start a nonprofit called PATHS.
“I heard from God and he told me to start a nonprofit called PATHS,” he recalls. At first, he and his peers went into schools and inner‑city communities to teach young people “the many different paths to entering the entertainment industry”—not just the craft, but “the practical steps and establishing yourself, like the business of an actor… a stunt person, hair and makeup, etc.”
When the pandemic hit and school visits stopped, he pivoted to a podcast and digital platform: “Fine, I’ll do it,” he laughs. Now PATHS for us lets “anyone anywhere that desires to be in entertainment hear from credible entertainment industry professionals on how they got to where they are and how you can do the same.”
Working on Sinners confirmed that he should go all in: “It just gave me exactly what I needed to know that I should pour my all into it.”
Honoring a history-making moment
As Sinners takes off, Christian keeps coming back to one word: gratefulness—for the film, for the collaborators, for the chance to be part of something people are calling historic.
At Bolanle Media, we see more than a viral scene. We see an artist whose craft is rooted in faith, ancestors, and hard-earned discipline; whose joy lifts the rooms he works in; and whose platform is opening real paths for others.
This scene almost broke him. And changed his career.
Now, as the world catches up, Christian Robinson is using that breakthrough not just to walk through new doors—but to help the next generation find theirs.
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7 Filmmaking Lessons From Michael B. Jordan’s Oscar Moment

Michael B. Jordan’s first Oscar win for Sinners isn’t just a milestone for his career — it’s a masterclass for filmmakers watching from the edit bay, the writing desk, or the no‑budget set.
For years, Jordan has been building toward this moment: from early TV roles to his breakout in Fruitvale Station, the cultural shockwave of Black Panther, and his evolution into a producer and director. His Sinners performance and awards run crystallize a set of habits, choices, and values that rising filmmakers can actually use.
1. “Find Your Coogler”: The Power of Long-Term Collaboration
Jordan’s professional story is inseparable from his collaboration with Ryan Coogler. They’ve moved together from intimate indie drama to franchise-level spectacle, and now to awards-season dominance with Sinners.
“Find your people and grow with them, not just next to them.”
For filmmakers, the takeaway is simple:
- Stop thinking in “one‑off” crews.
- Start identifying the producers, DPs, editors, writers, and actors you want to build years of work with.
That kind of trust lets you move faster, go deeper, and take bigger risks together.
2. Preparation That Lets You Jump Off the Cliff
Jordan has talked in interviews about preparing so thoroughly that he can “let go” when the cameras roll. The homework — script work, character study, physical training, emotional research — is what makes the risk possible.
You can translate that directly into a filmmaking workflow:
- Do the table read.
- Break down the script scene by scene.
- Build visual references and emotional maps.
The more you handle before you’re on set, the more you can afford to explore, improvise, and discover in real time.
“Preparation buys you freedom on set.”
3. Take the “Bad Idea” Swing
A key pattern in Jordan’s choices is betting on material that doesn’t always look safe or obvious on paper. Roles and projects that feel intense, specific, or risky are often the ones that end up resonating the most.
For filmmakers, that means:
- Stop sandpapering your scripts into something generic.
- Start protecting the sharp edges — the personal details, the uncomfortable moments, the cultural specifics.
The project that scares you a little might be the one that actually breaks you out.
“If it feels too safe, it’s probably not big enough.”
4. One Hat at a Time (On Purpose)
Jordan is a modern multi-hyphenate — actor, producer, director — but he’s also strategic about when he wears which hat. On some projects, he leans fully into performance and trusts his team with everything else; on others, like Creed III, he steps behind the camera and takes on the entire vision.
Filmmakers can learn from that restraint:
- It’s okay to not direct, shoot, edit, and produce every single project.
- Choosing one primary role per project can sharpen the overall result.
Ask yourself on each film: “What’s the one role where I add the most value here?” Then structure the team accordingly.
“You don’t have to do everything on every film.”

5. Build an Ecosystem, Not Just a Résumé
Through his company and slate, Jordan is doing more than collecting credits. He’s building an ecosystem where the stories he cares about have a home — a pipeline for voices, genres, and perspectives that might not get space elsewhere.
That’s a roadmap for independent filmmakers and media founders:
- Create recurring spaces (a series, a channel, a festival, a label) where your sensibility is the default.
- Think beyond the single film; think in seasons, slates, and communities.
Your “ecosystem” might start as a simple recurring short-film series on your site, or a curated block at a festival. Over time, it becomes infrastructure.
“Don’t just book jobs. Build a world.”
6. Honor the Lineage You Stand On
When he accepted his Oscar, Jordan made a point to acknowledge the Black artists and legends who paved the way before him. That posture matters. It keeps ego in check and places today’s wins inside a longer lineage of struggle and progress.
Filmmakers can mirror that by:
- Citing their influences openly.
- Educating themselves on the history of the craft, especially in their own communities.
- Using their platforms to shine a light on peers and predecessors.
This isn’t just about being gracious; it’s about knowing you’re part of a story bigger than one awards season.
“Your win is a chapter, not the whole book.”
7. Let the Win Raise Your Standards
The most powerful thing about this moment is that it doesn’t feel like a finish line. Jordan’s energy reads as: this is motivation, not retirement. The recognition becomes pressure to work smarter, deeper, and more intentionally.
Filmmakers can turn every “win” — whether it’s an Oscar, a festival laurel, a viral clip, or a private email from someone impacted by your work — into fuel for the next draft and the next shoot.
Ask:
- What did I do well here that I can codify into my process?
- Where did I get lucky, and how can I replace luck with craft next time?
“Treat every win as a new baseline, not a peak.”
Why This Matters for Our Community
At Bolane Media, we see Michael B. Jordan’s Oscar moment not just as a celebrity headline, but as a roadmap for emerging storytellers — especially those building from underrepresented communities and independent spaces.
If you’re a filmmaker reading this:
- Identify one of these seven lessons.
- Apply it to your next project, not the hypothetical big one five years from now.
Then share your work with us. We want to see what you build.
Advice
How to Find Your Voice as a Filmmaker

Every filmmaker aspires to create projects that are not only memorable but also uniquely their own. Finding your creative voice is a journey that requires self-reflection, bold choices, and an unwavering commitment to your vision. Here’s how to uncover your style, take risks, and craft original work that stands out.
1. Discovering Your Voice: Understanding Your Influences
Your unique voice begins with recognizing what inspires you.
- Step 1: Reflect on the themes, genres, or emotions that consistently draw your interest. Are you inspired by human resilience, surreal worlds, or untold histories?
- Step 2: Study the work of filmmakers you admire. Analyze what resonates with you—their use of color, pacing, or narrative techniques.
Tip: Combine what you love with your personal experiences to create a lens that only you can offer.
Example: Wes Anderson’s whimsical, symmetrical worlds stem from his love of classic storytelling and his unique visual style.
Takeaway: Start with what moves you, then add your personal touch.
2. Taking Creative Risks: Experiment and Evolve
To stand out, you must be willing to challenge conventions and explore new territory.
- Experimentation: Try unusual storytelling structures, such as non-linear timelines or silent sequences.
- Collaboration: Work with people outside your usual circle to gain fresh perspectives.
- Feedback: Screen your projects for trusted peers and be open to constructive criticism.
Example: Jordan Peele blended horror with social commentary in Get Out, creating a genre-defying film that captivated audiences.
Takeaway: Risks are an opportunity for growth, even if they don’t always succeed.
3. Telling Original Stories: Start with Authenticity
Original projects resonate when they stem from a place of truth.
- Draw from Experience: Incorporate elements of your own life, culture, or worldview into your stories.
- Explore the “Why”: Ask yourself why this story matters to you and how it connects with your audience.
- Avoid Trends: Focus on timeless narratives rather than chasing current fads.
Example: Greta Gerwig’s Lady Bird was deeply personal, based on her experiences growing up in Sacramento. The film’s authenticity made it universally relatable.
Takeaway: The more personal the story, the more it resonates.
4. Developing Your Style: Consistency Meets Creativity
Style is not just about visuals—it’s how you tell a story across all elements of filmmaking.
- Visual Language: Experiment with colors, lighting, and framing to create a distinct aesthetic.
- Narrative Voice: Develop consistent themes or motifs across your projects.
- Sound Design: Use music, sound effects, and silence to evoke specific emotions.
Example: Quentin Tarantino’s use of dialogue, pop culture references, and bold music choices makes his work instantly recognizable.
Takeaway: Your style should be intentional, evolving as you grow but always recognizable as yours.
5. Staying True to Yourself: Building Confidence in Your Vision
The filmmaking process is full of challenges, but staying true to your voice is essential.
- Stay Authentic: Trust your instincts, even if your ideas seem unconventional.
- Adapt Without Compromise: Be open to feedback but maintain your core vision.
- Celebrate Your Growth: View every project, successful or not, as a stepping stone in your creative journey.
Example: Ava DuVernay shifted from public relations to filmmaking, staying true to her voice in films like Selma and 13th, which focus on social justice.
Takeaway: Your voice evolves with every project, so embrace the process.
Conclusion: From Idea to Screen, Your Voice is Your Superpower
Finding your voice as a filmmaker takes time, courage, and commitment. By exploring your influences, taking risks, and staying true to your perspective, you’ll craft stories that not only stand out but also resonate deeply with your audience.
Bolanle Media is excited to announce our partnership with The Newbie Film Academy to offer comprehensive courses designed specifically for aspiring screenwriters. Whether you’re just starting out or looking to enhance your skills, our resources will provide you with the tools and knowledge needed to succeed in the competitive world of screenwriting. Join us today to unlock your creative potential and take your first steps toward crafting compelling stories that resonate with audiences. Let’s turn your ideas into impactful scripts together!
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