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Unhinged TikTok Describes Protecting Husband from “Triggering” Oppenheimer … on August 22, 2023 at 8:26 pm The Hollywood Gossip

Oppenheimer is a critically acclaimed film. It’s not the best or highest grossing film of the year, but it’s a phenomenon.
The story involves war, the atrocity of the atomic bomb, human suffering. And there are moments during which Florence Pugh is unclothed.
To most mature adults, a couple of minutes of nudity in a three-hour film is no big deal. Boobs exist. It’s fine.
If you are a deeply troubled person — or married to one — however, it’s a problem. And that’s how one woman’s alarming TikTok has made the rounds on social media this week.
Jourdan Kehr went viral in August of 2023 for her unintentionally farcical how-to guide about watching Oppenheimer with her husband. (TikTok)
Sometimes, we have to acknowledge that a deeply harmful person is going through some painful inner turmoil.
That doesn’t excuse their actions if they are making the world a worse place. But it helps explain why they are lashing out.
And that, unfortunately, is exactly what is going on with TikTok user @thatsnotlove, Jourdan Kehr of West Virginia.
Florence Pugh attends the “Oppenheimer” UK Premiere at Odeon Luxe Leicester Square on July 13, 2023 in London, England. (Getty)
Jourdan has devoted her entire brand to pushing the idea that pornography is evil.
We’re not talking about someone talking about abuse or corruption from porn studios.
She conflates what consenting adults do on camera with human trafficking, CSAM, and pedophilia.
TikToker Jourdan Kehr claimed that “porn addicted” (which is not a recognized medical condition) men want to sexualize children. Her evidence? A photoshoot of Euphoria actress Sydney Sweeney, who is a grown woman born in 1997. (TikTok)
Now, it seems that she is extending the “porn” label and all of the alleged destruction that goes with it to the appearance of bare breasts.
Like, bare breasts in a normal movie.
Specifically, Florence Pugh’s breasts in this summer’s Oppenheimer. A film about war and the invention of the nuclear bomb, and this (we shudder to say) “influencer” feels concerned about breasts.
Twitter users were quick to point out that Jourdan Kehr’s priorities regarding and reactions to Oppenheimer were very alarming. (Twitter)
If you watch the now-deleted video of Jourdan ranting about how she protected her husband from briefly seeing another woman’s breasts, you might not realize what she’s talking about at first.
She describes a fear that her husband will be “triggered” during the film, and how he rests his head on her shoulder during certain scenes.
You might assume that she’s talking about the film’s depiction of suicide. That can be triggering. Or the war. Or he could have epilepsy! Instead, it’s about the unmitigated horror of … the human body.
In Jourdan Kehr’s TikTok page, one can find endless examples of her repeating extreme anti-sex worker talking points. Of course, she can’t write “porn,” because TikTok is a dystopia. (TikTok)
“Okay so I research everything before we watch it but especially this movie,” Jourdan noted.
“Obviously I heard about it, yes we wanted to see it, it has an amazing rating,” she added. “We prepared ourselves.”
Jourdan admitted: “I didn’t know when the scene was going to happen and I also didn’t understand how the scene was happening.”
Actress Florence Pugh appeared out and about in a gorgeous sheer pink dress at the Valentino Haute Couture show in Rome. (Getty)
After sharing that the sight of Florence Pugh seated topless in a chair was “difficult to avoid,” Jourdan explained how she and her husband always have a “game plan” when they do anything.
“We talk about things, like ‘What if you get triggered? What if I’d get triggered?’” she detailed, as if this were normal in this context.
That could be extremely sensible for someone with PTSD, with OCD, even with certain types of disordered eating. But those are … real problems. Problems that exist.
Jourdan Kehr mimed how her husband shielded his eyes from the horror of a human woman having a body during Oppenheimer. (TikTok)
“When the scene came up, when things were happening, he literally closed his eyes and laid his head on my shoulder,” Jourdan shared.
“Then I would just let him know whenever it was over,” she detailed.
This would be a very sweet story if it were about a debilitating phobia. But this is not that.
Sometimes, the stars align and the perfect reference image exists to make fun of someone who is being utterly ridiculous. Thank you, Barbie. (Twitter)
“Have a plan and talk about it before you go,” she urged her followers.
As if this were a real problem that anyone in their right mind would need to prepare themselves for. It is not.
Meanwhile, her video broke containment. Instead of only the denizens of TikTok seeing her post, she became Twitter’s main character.
This Twitter user’s assessment of Jourdan Kehr is accurate. She HAS lost the plot. Literally. (Twitter)
In a follow-up video, Jourdan doubled down on her absurd video, claiming that she suffered “betrayal trauma.” What?
“I went through betrayal trauma 10 months ago after nine years of marriage, 10 years of being in a completely monogamous relationship,” she described.
Oh no, did her husband cheat? (No)
Sex trafficking is a real horror that takes various forms. But conspiracy theorists and others on political extremes sometimes latch onto the topic for destructive reasons, as Jourdan Kehr has on TikTok. (TikTok)
“I was fully under the belief that he didn’t look at other women, he didn’t self pleasure at other women, porn was the furthest thing from my mind,” Jourdan described.
“I never would have thought or believed that he was using porn,” she said.
“But he was and I found out about it on September 17, 2022,” Jourdan recalled. “That was the hardest day of my life. It was the hardest following weeks and following months of my life.”
Florence Pugh was one of the highlights of Disney Plus’ “Hawkeye” series in late 2021. Her character, Yelena, appears in other MCU media and is an established character from Marvel Comics. (Disney Plus)
“Betrayal trauma has changed me as person inside and out,” Jourdan insisted.
“It put me through a lot of stress. It put me through a lot of pain,” she listed. Sure. “It put me through sickness. It put me through depression. Gave me a lot of stress and a lot of anxiety.”
We wish that she had gotten help for her obvious issues. Instead, she has chosen to make this her husband’s problem — and everyone else’s.
Using the handle @thatsnotlove on TikTok, Jourdan Kehr has seemingly devoted her online presence to extreme sex-negative talking points, from railing against porn to “warning” followers about nudity in mainstream cinema. (TikTok)
If you look at the rest of Jourdan’s TikTok page, you can see that it’s more of the same. She is clearly a deeply troubled person.
In various posts, she repeats alarming anti-sex worker talking points. These are the kinds that you see from the anti-sex worker hate groups who tried to pressure payment processors to shut down most of OnlyFans.
Whatever her underlying issues are, they are not an excuse for her spread of malice and misinformation. But we still hope that she can find help.
Don’t Worry Darling stars Florence Pugh and Harry Styles play a young, hot married couple. They certainly act like it in the trailer. (Warner Bros. Pictures)
Just for the record, “porn addiction” doesn’t seem to be a real thing. Not according to, you know, the medical community. It’s mostly a right-wing talking point to shame people for human sexuality.
But Jourdan seems to believe that merely viewing pornography at all is a transgression.
Spouses can set boundaries for each other, sure. But this is a woman who desperately needs help, because normal and healthy expressions of human sexuality should not cause her “trauma.”
Unhinged TikTok Describes Protecting Husband from “Triggering” Oppenheimer … was originally published on The Hollywood Gossip.
Oppenheimer is a critically acclaimed film. It’s not the best or highest grossing film of the year, but it’s a …
Unhinged TikTok Describes Protecting Husband from “Triggering” Oppenheimer … was originally published on The Hollywood Gossip.
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This scene almost broke him. And changed his career.

As Sinners surges into the cultural conversation, it’s impossible to ignore the force of Christian Robinson’s performance. His “let me in” door scene has become one of the film’s defining moments—raw, desperate, and unforgettable. But the power of that scene makes the most sense when you understand the journey that brought him there.
From church play to breakout roles
Christian’s path didn’t begin on a Hollywood set. It started in a Brooklyn church, when a woman named Miss Val kept asking him to be in a play.
“I told her no countless times,” he remembers. “Every time she saw me, she asked me and she wouldn’t stop asking me.”
He finally said yes—and everything changed.
“I did it once and I fell in love,” he says. That one performance pushed him into deep research on the craft, a move to Atlanta, and years of unglamorous work: training, auditioning, stacking small wins until he booked his first roles and then Netflix’s Burning Sands, where many met him as Big Country.
By the time Sinners came along, he wasn’t a newcomer hoping to get lucky. He was an actor who had quietly built the muscles to carry something bigger.
The door scene: life or death
On The Roselyn Omaka Show, Christian shared the directing note Ryan Coogler gave him before filming the door scene:
“He explained to me, ‘I need you to bang on this door as if your life depended on it. Like it’s a matter of life and death.’”
Christian didn’t just turn up the volume; he reached deeper.
“This film speaks a lot about our ancestors,” he told Roselyn Omaka. “So I tried to give a glimpse of what our ancestors would’ve experienced if someone or something that could bring ultimate destruction was after them. How hard would they bang? How loud would they scream to try to get into a place safely? That’s what I intended to convey in that moment.”
That inner picture—life or death, ancestors, ultimate destruction—is why the scene hits like more than a plot beat. It feels like generational memory breaking through a single frame.
Living through a “history” moment in real time
When Roselyn asks what he’s processing as Sinners takes off, Christian admits he’s still inside the wave.
“I’ve never experienced a project with this level of reception and energy and momentum,” he says. “People having their theories and breaking it down and doing reenactments… it’s never been a time like this in my career.”
He’s careful not to over‑define something that’s still unfolding: “There’s no way to give an accurate description of what I’m experiencing while I’m still experiencing it.” He knows he’ll need distance to name it fully.
But he can name one thing: “If I could gather any adjective to describe it, it would be gratefulness. I’m grateful.”
He also feels the weight of what this film might mean long-term:
“To know that I was there for a large amount of the time it was being brought to life, and a part of what the internet is saying will be history… this is something that I’m inspired by—to shoot for the stars in whatever passion rooted in creativity that you possess.”
Music, joy, and the man behind the moment
Christian talks about the music of Sinners as another force that shaped him. The score wasn’t playing nonstop; it showed up in key moments.
“The music was played when it was necessary to be played. But when it was played, it resonated,” he says. Hearing Miles Caton’s songs early, before the world did, he remembers thinking, “This is going to be magical… This is one of the ones right here.”
For all the heaviness of the story, he also brought levity. He laughs about being the jokester on set—singing Juvenile and Lil Wayne in the New Orleans hair and makeup trailer, trying to make everyone smile during Essence Fest weekend. “I’m a fun guy,” he says. “I love to see people laugh and have a good time.”
PATHS for us and opening doors
What might be most revealing is how seriously Christian takes his responsibility off screen. In 2015, sitting in his apartment outside Atlanta, he felt God tell him to start a nonprofit called PATHS.
“I heard from God and he told me to start a nonprofit called PATHS,” he recalls. At first, he and his peers went into schools and inner‑city communities to teach young people “the many different paths to entering the entertainment industry”—not just the craft, but “the practical steps and establishing yourself, like the business of an actor… a stunt person, hair and makeup, etc.”
When the pandemic hit and school visits stopped, he pivoted to a podcast and digital platform: “Fine, I’ll do it,” he laughs. Now PATHS for us lets “anyone anywhere that desires to be in entertainment hear from credible entertainment industry professionals on how they got to where they are and how you can do the same.”
Working on Sinners confirmed that he should go all in: “It just gave me exactly what I needed to know that I should pour my all into it.”
Honoring a history-making moment
As Sinners takes off, Christian keeps coming back to one word: gratefulness—for the film, for the collaborators, for the chance to be part of something people are calling historic.
At Bolanle Media, we see more than a viral scene. We see an artist whose craft is rooted in faith, ancestors, and hard-earned discipline; whose joy lifts the rooms he works in; and whose platform is opening real paths for others.
This scene almost broke him. And changed his career.
Now, as the world catches up, Christian Robinson is using that breakthrough not just to walk through new doors—but to help the next generation find theirs.
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7 Filmmaking Lessons From Michael B. Jordan’s Oscar Moment

Michael B. Jordan’s first Oscar win for Sinners isn’t just a milestone for his career — it’s a masterclass for filmmakers watching from the edit bay, the writing desk, or the no‑budget set.
For years, Jordan has been building toward this moment: from early TV roles to his breakout in Fruitvale Station, the cultural shockwave of Black Panther, and his evolution into a producer and director. His Sinners performance and awards run crystallize a set of habits, choices, and values that rising filmmakers can actually use.
1. “Find Your Coogler”: The Power of Long-Term Collaboration
Jordan’s professional story is inseparable from his collaboration with Ryan Coogler. They’ve moved together from intimate indie drama to franchise-level spectacle, and now to awards-season dominance with Sinners.
“Find your people and grow with them, not just next to them.”
For filmmakers, the takeaway is simple:
- Stop thinking in “one‑off” crews.
- Start identifying the producers, DPs, editors, writers, and actors you want to build years of work with.
That kind of trust lets you move faster, go deeper, and take bigger risks together.
2. Preparation That Lets You Jump Off the Cliff
Jordan has talked in interviews about preparing so thoroughly that he can “let go” when the cameras roll. The homework — script work, character study, physical training, emotional research — is what makes the risk possible.
You can translate that directly into a filmmaking workflow:
- Do the table read.
- Break down the script scene by scene.
- Build visual references and emotional maps.
The more you handle before you’re on set, the more you can afford to explore, improvise, and discover in real time.
“Preparation buys you freedom on set.”
3. Take the “Bad Idea” Swing
A key pattern in Jordan’s choices is betting on material that doesn’t always look safe or obvious on paper. Roles and projects that feel intense, specific, or risky are often the ones that end up resonating the most.
For filmmakers, that means:
- Stop sandpapering your scripts into something generic.
- Start protecting the sharp edges — the personal details, the uncomfortable moments, the cultural specifics.
The project that scares you a little might be the one that actually breaks you out.
“If it feels too safe, it’s probably not big enough.”
4. One Hat at a Time (On Purpose)
Jordan is a modern multi-hyphenate — actor, producer, director — but he’s also strategic about when he wears which hat. On some projects, he leans fully into performance and trusts his team with everything else; on others, like Creed III, he steps behind the camera and takes on the entire vision.
Filmmakers can learn from that restraint:
- It’s okay to not direct, shoot, edit, and produce every single project.
- Choosing one primary role per project can sharpen the overall result.
Ask yourself on each film: “What’s the one role where I add the most value here?” Then structure the team accordingly.
“You don’t have to do everything on every film.”

5. Build an Ecosystem, Not Just a Résumé
Through his company and slate, Jordan is doing more than collecting credits. He’s building an ecosystem where the stories he cares about have a home — a pipeline for voices, genres, and perspectives that might not get space elsewhere.
That’s a roadmap for independent filmmakers and media founders:
- Create recurring spaces (a series, a channel, a festival, a label) where your sensibility is the default.
- Think beyond the single film; think in seasons, slates, and communities.
Your “ecosystem” might start as a simple recurring short-film series on your site, or a curated block at a festival. Over time, it becomes infrastructure.
“Don’t just book jobs. Build a world.”
6. Honor the Lineage You Stand On
When he accepted his Oscar, Jordan made a point to acknowledge the Black artists and legends who paved the way before him. That posture matters. It keeps ego in check and places today’s wins inside a longer lineage of struggle and progress.
Filmmakers can mirror that by:
- Citing their influences openly.
- Educating themselves on the history of the craft, especially in their own communities.
- Using their platforms to shine a light on peers and predecessors.
This isn’t just about being gracious; it’s about knowing you’re part of a story bigger than one awards season.
“Your win is a chapter, not the whole book.”
7. Let the Win Raise Your Standards
The most powerful thing about this moment is that it doesn’t feel like a finish line. Jordan’s energy reads as: this is motivation, not retirement. The recognition becomes pressure to work smarter, deeper, and more intentionally.
Filmmakers can turn every “win” — whether it’s an Oscar, a festival laurel, a viral clip, or a private email from someone impacted by your work — into fuel for the next draft and the next shoot.
Ask:
- What did I do well here that I can codify into my process?
- Where did I get lucky, and how can I replace luck with craft next time?
“Treat every win as a new baseline, not a peak.”
Why This Matters for Our Community
At Bolane Media, we see Michael B. Jordan’s Oscar moment not just as a celebrity headline, but as a roadmap for emerging storytellers — especially those building from underrepresented communities and independent spaces.
If you’re a filmmaker reading this:
- Identify one of these seven lessons.
- Apply it to your next project, not the hypothetical big one five years from now.
Then share your work with us. We want to see what you build.
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How to Find Your Voice as a Filmmaker

Every filmmaker aspires to create projects that are not only memorable but also uniquely their own. Finding your creative voice is a journey that requires self-reflection, bold choices, and an unwavering commitment to your vision. Here’s how to uncover your style, take risks, and craft original work that stands out.
1. Discovering Your Voice: Understanding Your Influences
Your unique voice begins with recognizing what inspires you.
- Step 1: Reflect on the themes, genres, or emotions that consistently draw your interest. Are you inspired by human resilience, surreal worlds, or untold histories?
- Step 2: Study the work of filmmakers you admire. Analyze what resonates with you—their use of color, pacing, or narrative techniques.
Tip: Combine what you love with your personal experiences to create a lens that only you can offer.
Example: Wes Anderson’s whimsical, symmetrical worlds stem from his love of classic storytelling and his unique visual style.
Takeaway: Start with what moves you, then add your personal touch.
2. Taking Creative Risks: Experiment and Evolve
To stand out, you must be willing to challenge conventions and explore new territory.
- Experimentation: Try unusual storytelling structures, such as non-linear timelines or silent sequences.
- Collaboration: Work with people outside your usual circle to gain fresh perspectives.
- Feedback: Screen your projects for trusted peers and be open to constructive criticism.
Example: Jordan Peele blended horror with social commentary in Get Out, creating a genre-defying film that captivated audiences.
Takeaway: Risks are an opportunity for growth, even if they don’t always succeed.
3. Telling Original Stories: Start with Authenticity
Original projects resonate when they stem from a place of truth.
- Draw from Experience: Incorporate elements of your own life, culture, or worldview into your stories.
- Explore the “Why”: Ask yourself why this story matters to you and how it connects with your audience.
- Avoid Trends: Focus on timeless narratives rather than chasing current fads.
Example: Greta Gerwig’s Lady Bird was deeply personal, based on her experiences growing up in Sacramento. The film’s authenticity made it universally relatable.
Takeaway: The more personal the story, the more it resonates.
4. Developing Your Style: Consistency Meets Creativity
Style is not just about visuals—it’s how you tell a story across all elements of filmmaking.
- Visual Language: Experiment with colors, lighting, and framing to create a distinct aesthetic.
- Narrative Voice: Develop consistent themes or motifs across your projects.
- Sound Design: Use music, sound effects, and silence to evoke specific emotions.
Example: Quentin Tarantino’s use of dialogue, pop culture references, and bold music choices makes his work instantly recognizable.
Takeaway: Your style should be intentional, evolving as you grow but always recognizable as yours.
5. Staying True to Yourself: Building Confidence in Your Vision
The filmmaking process is full of challenges, but staying true to your voice is essential.
- Stay Authentic: Trust your instincts, even if your ideas seem unconventional.
- Adapt Without Compromise: Be open to feedback but maintain your core vision.
- Celebrate Your Growth: View every project, successful or not, as a stepping stone in your creative journey.
Example: Ava DuVernay shifted from public relations to filmmaking, staying true to her voice in films like Selma and 13th, which focus on social justice.
Takeaway: Your voice evolves with every project, so embrace the process.
Conclusion: From Idea to Screen, Your Voice is Your Superpower
Finding your voice as a filmmaker takes time, courage, and commitment. By exploring your influences, taking risks, and staying true to your perspective, you’ll craft stories that not only stand out but also resonate deeply with your audience.
Bolanle Media is excited to announce our partnership with The Newbie Film Academy to offer comprehensive courses designed specifically for aspiring screenwriters. Whether you’re just starting out or looking to enhance your skills, our resources will provide you with the tools and knowledge needed to succeed in the competitive world of screenwriting. Join us today to unlock your creative potential and take your first steps toward crafting compelling stories that resonate with audiences. Let’s turn your ideas into impactful scripts together!
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